My Father Has Been Gone For 10 Years

10 Years.

My father has been gone for 10 years.

I’ve thought about this anniversary for a while because it’s a big one. I’ve thought about this anniversary for a while yet the fact that it’s here now still seems entirely impossible to me.

There’s this common misconception that the longer it’s been since a loved one’s passing, the easier it becomes. People start to forget. They figure you must be over it by now because time heals all wounds, right?

Whenever I hear that a friend has lost a parent, I always say the same thing:

“I know this feels impossible but I promise it won't feel this impossible forever.”

But here’s the thing: just because it doesn’t feel as impossible, doesn’t mean it ever stops feeling impossible, and sometimes, on days like today, it feels more impossible than ever.